Here’s a post by my friend Dan Tsouloufis.
5 PRINCIPLES FOR MARRIED COUPLES
Below are 5 principles for married or engaged couples to contemplate and commit to.
First, the primary goal of marriage isn’t to be happy (although we of course desire happiness), but it’s to honor the Lord in our marriage covenant. Honoring the Lord needs to be our overarching priority.
Second, while it’s understandable to want our spouse to change in various ways, it’s also important that each partner seeks to grow in their own sanctification. Thus, each partner should commit to praying for their spouse while also pursuing growth in their own sanctification.
Third, each partner should be willing to come out of their comfort zone for the sake of their spouse. This demonstrates humility, as well as a desire to love and serve their spouse. It also demonstrates a desire to grow in understanding of their spouse.
Fourth, God calls couples to pursue oneness, unity, and intimacy. Thus, couples must nurture and cultivate their marriage relationship, for their good and God’s glory. It is not God’s design for married couples to function as roommates who merely manage a household.
Fifth, if the husband seeks to love, serve, and lead his wife well, she will submit to his leadership. This is how God designed a biblical marriage to function. Thus, the husband should be a sacrificial servant-leader in his home, not the boss of his home.
